Man creates spreadsheet of all the ladies he’s ever dated

Unlike many people who may have forgotten all about their
exes after many years, 40-year-old Michael has kept a
spreadsheet of all his sexual encounter since he was 17
Each entry includes a concise description of the act beside
the names.
Speaking to All Woman, he explains: “I do it to remember
what happened, with whom, as an ego boost, as a
comparison of each woman’s skills, and in the event that I
pick up a disease, I’ll know who it came from and who
should get checked.”
When asked about his perception of his behaviour, Michael
said he sees it as ‘quite normal’ and in fact very responsible
of him to keep track of his encounters.
Michael is not the only one keeping a sex list; Jason , 25,
says with each name he writes, his pride and ego are lifted.
“When I reached number 50 I had this very huge sense of
accomplishment and now I’m focused on getting to the
100th woman,” he said.
Jason also added that the list serves as a reminder of where
he’s been, where he should never return, and each
experience teaches him different tricks and trades in the
book of love.
Addressing the issue, Dr. Alverston Bailey, family physician
and author of Sexplanations: A guide to discussing Sex &
Sexuality in the Caribbean , said most Jamaicans , especially
women, are conservative and secretive when it comes to
their sexual lives and the issue of journalising your sex
journey as a man is very uncommon.
“Women are far more likely to keep a diary of those
personal events, men rarely ever do that,” he said.
He added that as a matter of fact, a lot of men falsely
increase their actual numbers, and a sex list, which is an
accomplishment in their case, may serve as a form of
validation for a man’s prowess.
“Oftentimes men are driven to have more than one sexual
partner because to be admired by many women, many men
think it validates their masculinity and makes them feel
special and that they are needed and desired,” he said.
However, according to Dr. Bailey, beyond all that is the
possibility of these men having psychological issues, which
include borderline personality disorder.
“It is often men with low self-esteem that need to be
validated by women. It often suggests an individual with a
borderline personality disorder and in fact may be
hypersexuality, which could be due to upbringing and a
desperate attempt to achieve love.”
He added that a lot of these men may not like women, but
might be having sex merely as an expression of power.
“It might be that he is obsessed with the need to control or
dominate women or use them as a sport or game, where the
more virgins he deflowers or the more hearts he breaks, the
greater he feels,” Dr Bailey said.
“The individual might also be suffering from sexual
addiction. A sexual addict finds it very difficult to get
gratification from any sexual partner and the person does
not really enjoy sex. He or she is trying to find love and
moves from flower to flower, trying to achieve gratification,
and even though he’s looking for love he is unable to give
love because of his upbringing and socialisation.”