Mercy Johnson has opened up on why her marriage is
dispelling the myth that actresses do not make good
wives..In a recent interview with Leadership,she said
her secret is honesty and being down-to-earth despite
her fame
On the general notion that actresses do not make
good wives
Well, I can only speak from my own perspective
and when I say my perspective, I mean from my
personal experiences, marriage and relationship
with my husband. One of the biggest lies
anyone can tell himself/herself is using one or
more random experiences to judge and
stereotype others. We all have our different
stories to tell. I have two children for my
husband today and he has not stopped talking
about how down-to-earth I was yet I am an
actress; not just any actresses
I had a large following at that time yet I did not
go around pouting my lips or playing the snub.
My husband later confessed to me that for him,
it was love at first sight but that did not stop
him from asking me to cook for him the first
day I set foot in his house.
At first, I was stunned that a Nigerian man
was asking me to enter his kitchen to cook him
a meal. A part of me whispered to me that
perhaps, he was not aware of who I was and
when I said to him: ‘You must be joking. My
name is Mercy Johnson’. What shocked me even
more was his response when he said: ‘I know’.
Rather than take offence, I was drawn closer to
him.
We have been married since 2011 and we love
each other to bits till date and have consciously
decided to spend the rest of our lives together.
As I said earlier, I am an actress who is
correcting the rigid stand that actresses cannot
have happy homes when they get married. Also,
bear in mind that there are several Nigerian
actresses like me who are happily married.
Having a happy marriage is a choice a woman
has to make. When you decide to have a happy
marriage, you focus your thoughts, actions,
words, work and everything else around
protecting that happiness.
On the reason behind high divorce rate among
celebrities?
In marriage, you must have trust and you must
also have love. The moment you lose these two,
then it is just a matter of time before you
embark on a calamitous countdown towards the
end of your marriage. My relationship with my
husband has been very special. He is not just
my husband or father of my children. He is my
friend.
On the secrets of her marriage being stable
I don’t even have to think about it. It is
honesty. I remember the words of my pastor to
me even before we got married. He advised me
never to have a marriage built on lies and I
listened. I don’t lie to my husband. We have
agreed to tell the truth to each other regardless
of how painful or scary it might be. I remember
one instance when I found myself crying when I
had to tell him the truth. That day, I had
attended an event wearing a lovely dress that
had a slit but unfortunately, at that event, the
paparazzi captured a wrong image of me. I
picked up my phone and I don’t think I have to
tell you who I called first.
My husband, of course, and guess what? I was
crying and sobbing even before I started talking
to him because I felt really bad about it. Rather
than lie to him, I told him the complete truth
and it helped in no small measure. I remember
him asking how bad it was and I remember
telling him that it was really bad. I sent him the
photo and he consoled me. That is what a
husband who is also a friend does. He did not
rub it in my face, insult me, make me feel bad
or dent my self-esteem. He was there for me
when I needed him and he has not stopped till
date.
This is one of the reasons I do not hide anything
from him. He loves me just as passionately and
as fiercely as I love him and I have no doubt in
my mind that our marriage was ordained. God
had a hand in it and that is why everything just
works out between us. That is the only thing I
can consider the secret of our love story, which
continues to blossom. I have two children, an
amazing husband and millions of fans who have
held my back over the years and of course, God
who has watched over my affairs from the very
first day I arrived in this world till this moment.
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